By: lifestor | Oct. 4, 2020, 10:39 a.m.
When we are in a crowd, we have a lot to say, but when each of us is taken from the crowd, will your opinion be the same as the crowd’s? When we engage in activities, including our personal happiness we want the world to see and give us an approval, but are we enjoying those activities? Is our happiness personal or as long as the society thinks we are happy then we are even when we do not feel okay? Many people want to show the world that we are fine, we are successful and thriving in life. Well, none of us is completely satisfied. None of us lives without worry for their entire life, unless you or someone you know does, then feel free to change my mind.
Although Mathew West is a Christian artist, the lyrics to this song relates to most of us regardless of our faith or beliefs. “Lie number one you’re supposed to have all together and when they ask how you are doing just smile and tell them, ‘never better’.” I believe, like myself most of us have been caught in a situation where we say that we are doing fine even though we are not. We do not want to look helpless, weak and sometimes feel like a responsibility to other people. For some people it could be with a good reason, perhaps you have spoken up before and got the opposite of what you expected, or maybe been laughed at or disregarded. However, what you need to know is that not everyone is mean and vindictive and they might have had other issues that make them feel like yours aren’t as big as theirs. I maintain, your ability to handle your situation determines how big, or small your issues are. No one has a bigger or smaller problem than the other.
“Lie number 2 everybody’s life is perfect except yours.” Have you ever found yourself beating yourself down, wondering what is wrong with you and why you are such a mess? Admittedly not so many people have. What they don’t know is, a lot of people smile but that is just a mask for what is really happening behind the scenes. Because people choose to “keep your messes and your wounds and your secrets safe with you behind closed doors” we assume that others are better than us. Then we all end up setting unachievable standards that make our situations even worse. What we fail to realize is there isn’t such thing as a life that is better than ours. We would know if only we spoke up and when we do, we realize nothing is new. I have never seen an issue in my life that is unique to just one person. One that has never happened to anyone else on earth. So, with that said, there is always a solution. “I don’t know why it’s hard to admit it when being honest is the only way to fix it.”
It is okay not to be okay sometimes. It is okay, actually I would recommend speaking about our deepest and darkest secrets (choose who to share with wisely) with other people. Then, we would relieve ourselves the pressure of having to be perfect. Perfection is a disease whose cure is just within our reach. Our flaws make us who we are and the more we accept our imperfection the more peaceful our lives become. When things are out of control, it is okay to admit. That is the only way to solve it.
This song was recommended to me by a friend and since then it is always in my subconscious from where I retrieve it any time I need it. Thank you to the people that genuinely care about us and accept us with our imperfections. Truth be told, none of us is as perfect as we imagine others to be.
Truth be told by Mathew West - https://youtu.be/j4wYkS8Z3Io
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